A conversation I overheard last week, has stayed with me ever since. It took place between a carer and an elderly resident at the nursing home. Tess is a widow who was living independently at home until a series of falls brought about a deterioration in her health. She was put into long term care at the nursing home as her grown-up family all live abroad. Tess is a much loved lady as evidenced by the constant stream of friends and ex-neighbours who visit her at the home. She is rapidly fading physically but still has all her other faculties.
Carer: Eat up, Tess, before your lunch goes cold
Tess: I’m not feeling very well today
Carer: You’re not feeling well because you’re not eating enough food
Tess: I’m not hungry
Carer: If you don’t eat your food Tess, you’ll fade away
Tess: I know… that’s what I want.
What do you say to someone like dear old Tess?